Redefining the Cool Girl
She’s not in a band, or dates the cutest guy in the friend group or has amassed over a million followers on social media. She is not the girl who seems to always find a lap to sit on during happy hours. In films this is how the cool girl is portrayed to us. Serving the cool girl persona as nothing but false advertisement. She was prom queen, voted most popular, drove the best car, wore the most expensive brands and strictly hung out with the in-crowd. The problem with this fictionalized heroine was that they were also the first ones to look down on others who weren’t deemed to be cool enough. Rest in peace cool girl from days of yesteryears.
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Well Spoken
Nobody who is actually cool, gossips. That’s it. Once I hear someone that I personally know start to gossip about someone else, I can never take that person seriously, or trust them. In high school this girl Queenie (real name) said this one sentence that has stuck with me forever, “never trust someone who says ‘don’t tell her I told you’” as she went on talking about some high school drama about another girl spreading a rumor about her. Teen stuff, but Queenie was right. Since that day, I always made a conscious effort to never bad mouth anyone especially if they’re not there to defend themselves. I’m nowhere near perfect, but if Queenie never said that to me, I wonder if I’d be the same person I am today. I’ve had enemies, but these enemies were the ones who would gossip false rumors or say that one thing, “don’t tell her I told you.” That is the difference between me and them (thanks Queenie).
Somewhere there is a cool girl who when she talks about another person, it’s about a kind thing they did for them or what a fun, contagious laugh they have. We all probably know a cool girl like this, but we rarely give her credit she deserves.
Imperfect Style
Whether she lives by her messy hair don’t care looks or chooses to wear repeat outfits - to a point that it’s a uniform, she is cool in my book. She doesn’t try to catch up on the next or current trends. Her style may not even evolve through the years, but she can walk confidently into any room not allowing other people’s tastes to identify with her own nor let their judgement be any of her business.
Table Manners
I’m not referring to fine dining etiquette, but a gesture as simple and generous as pouring water into your glass before their own. Such a tiny act of casual thoughtfulness that lets you know this girl thinks of others. Another way to exercise true kindness is when someone at a dinner spills a drink and instead of speaking aloud and bringing it to everyone’s attention, just hands her napkin to help clean it up. I’ve witnessed this happen before and remember thinking to myself ‘I want to be that cool and calm of a person to do that for someone.’
Also a perfect example of how a cool girl comes to the quiet rescue is this TikTok of Vanessa Kirby with Pedro Pascal as she instantly without words helped him during an oncoming panic attack.
